I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, sex frustrates me!
And no, I”m not talking about the lack of it in my personal life here. I’m talking WRITING sex! Why is it so difficult for me? I’ve done it before – well, written it as well as…oh never mind – so why is it that when it comes to doing it again, I get… tongue tied, as it were? My fingers don’t work the way they’re supposed to… yes, people, I’m still talking about writing the scene here…
The first seven thousand words or so of the new book (Working title: The Episode) fairly flew out of my fingertips. My keyboard was smokin from the speed with which I typed. But now I’m in a chapter where there will be sex (I know – late in the book for me, but that’s just how this one rolls) and all writing has stopped.
Just a blank page stares at me when I log on. A few words get written, then deleted, then there I sit again.
Why, oh why, can’t I write sex scenes? I can write kissing scenes.
And I can write teasing scenes.
Here’s a little example from the current work-in-progress:
“What? Oh yeah, the thing. Um, the alphabetizer. That’s what I’m looking for.”
“Oh!” Amber laughed. “Sure, I know where one is.”
She opened a cabinet at the far end of the room. Shilo leaned against the table and admired how Amber’s faded jeans clung to her tight ass. She felt her clit grow, pressing into the seam of her own jeans as she thought how nice it would be to lock the supply room door and peel those jeans off Amber.
Amber turned and put her hands on her hips. Shilo knew she’d been busted. She grinned, but said nothing.
“I need your help,” Amber said.
Shilo pushed away from the table.
“What do you need?”
“I’m not tall enough to reach it. It’s on the second shelf from the top.”
Shilo walked up next to her. Amber came to Shilo’s chin. She’s never realized just how short she was.
“You’re short.”
“I’m vertically challenged.”
Shilo reached up and easily grabbed the alphabetizer.
“Thanks a lot for your help.”
“No problem.” She turned toward the door, then stopped and looked back at Shilo. “And next time? Don’t look at me like that unless you mean it.”
But the actual sex scenes? They throw me for a loop. Every time.
I’ve had over 25 short stories published, mostly erotica. I’ve had two novels published in the Heat Stroke brand of BSB, due to their, well, heat content. Lots of sex. The were erotic novels.
So, why can’t I write sex?
I usually blame it on the fact that it’s hard to write because I want it to be original, not like every other sex scene you’ve read, including ones I’ve written. And that’s true. My greatest fear is to have someone say, “Oh, jeez. MJ Williamz’ sex scenes are all the same.” I’d be devastated! So I know that’s not the only reason. There have to be more.
Do I think about sex?
Maybe once or twice… a minute!!!
Seriously – I can see the characters going at it. I can feel the intensity of their actions and reactions. And that’s another issue I think I have with writing sex. I worry it’ll come across mechanical. I don’t want it to be all:
“See Jane lick.”
“Hear Sally gasp.”
Ya know? I want the readers to experience every lick and suck and nibble. I want the readers to identify with at least one, preferably both characters. But I want them to experience more than just the tactile sensations. I want them to feel what the women are feeling inside, too (As in their emotions, dirty minded people).
But you know what I’m saying, right? And that’s hard. I don’t like them to feel flat.
And then there’s the appropriate-to-the-moment factor. I’ve already said I don’t want to repeat them, but each scene has to be appropriate to what’s going on in the book. If the two are at a theater and one is quietly stroking the other one, a fisting scene wouldn’t exactly be appropriate, right? And if a character is shy and timid, it might not be right, either. It has to be right for the scene and the characters.
So, those are a few of my theories. Whatever the reason I have a heck of a time writing sex scenes. I thought I was over it with Forbidden passions, but not so. Not so, at all.
At least, when faced with writing a sex scene, I write – what? Two blogs so far for this one sex scene? LOL So maybe the block is good for something.
Anyone have any input? Any theories on why I have such a hard time with these? Any ideas on how to overcome them? Any feedback? Comments? Anyone? Anyone? Bueller? Bueller?
OK, It’s time to post this blog and – I dunno – maybe go write the dagblasted sex scene!?!?!?
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